Face it: sometimes business sucks. Something we’ve put a ton of effort into craps the bed and we’re left with no choice but to scrap everything and…

start over. Go back to square one. Ask our buddy for a “gimme.”

Business (and life as well) is a funny creature that tends to shake foundations juuuuuuust when we’re hitting our stride. It’s the source of locker room grumblings, water cooler gossip and what keeps my massage therapist in business. After getting bitch-slapped by life last week and feeling that I was going to (yet again) have to start over, it finally occurred to me: we never, EVER, start over.

Now, before you all start wondering if my business imploded or I’ve broken-up with someone (no and no), I’ll just say that last week was a series of events that snowballed into one big ‘ol stick-my-head-in-the-sand-and-don’t-want-to-come-out-until-2010.  We all have those weeks on occasion. This one gave me a moment of clarity that’s the topic of this week’s blog.

Starting over is bullshit. Total horse crap. Grade-A fertilizer material and the stuff of which self-help books are made. While I’m sure that I could parlay this blog into a book deal that would fly off the shelves and into the hands of whiny businessfolk far and near, I’ll sum it up in a few sentences. Refill your coffee and have a seat.

We never start over. No matter if you’re a sprinter coming back to the starting line to run yet another race, a businessperson with a company that’s folded, a guy who just broke-up with his gal or a chef in the kitchen ready to make another pecan pie after the first one refused to set-up and resulted in a pie shell of hot pecan soup (not that it’s ever happened to me…whistling). Every experience gives us an invaluable set of tools to bring into the next go-round.

It’s time we start appreciating the tools and quit bitching that they’re in a blue toolbox because we had our heart set on a red one.

While it’s impossible to go through life without a base level of expectations, they really are the mother of all disappointment. Yeah, it sucks that things didn’t turn out the way we planned, but in the Target store of life, we’ve been able to fill-up our cart with a litany of useful thoughts, experiences and feelings. As life throws us those occasional curve balls, we have to watch the cashier scan them one by one and then present us with the damage. I say pay for your mother lode with enthusiasm! Whip out cash and take ownership of it all right there. Then take your baggage, roll it happily to your car and…

hop on the back of the cart and go for a ride.

Hell, you can even yell, “Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!” as you scream through the parking lot on your plastic hot rod.

Bottom line: there is no “starting over.” Not in business, relationships or all the other that life brings our way. There are, however, awesome opportunities to take on new tasks and adventures with your loaded-to-the-hilt blue toolbox.

And guess what? No one’s going to even notice it’s not red.

Digging Deeper

In this economy, where EVERYONE seems to be looking for a job (or at least a better one), how do you know you’re getting “da schnizzle,” the top dog, the worker bees, the leaders and ultimately the FIT you seek for your organization or project?

Sure, resumes and references are useful and vital tools for opening conversations with potential candidates.

But where else can you look?

Online.

Today’s blog stems from a not-so-recent conversation with a first date that was nothing more. As a C-level executive who experiences high employee turnover in a sales-related organization, his insight prompted some thought on my part. While I’m constantly asked about social media by several clients (answered in a previous blog here), it got me thinking that there’s a super-secret squirrel way for it to benefit the human resources professional looking for the real scoop on a job candidate.

It’s possible I’m going to get multiple death threats from the teens and tweens or those just out of college and on the 5-workday/7-party day schedule. All I’m sayin’ is that in this technology-driven era where it’s no longer a “good skill set” to know MS Office, you can bet your sweet ass that if you post it on the internet, someone’s going to find it.

For example: I used to be an actor. Actors do stupid things when they’re looking for credits. I took a role in a movie called “Naked Twister.” Guess how much explaining I have to do on THAT one to let folks know it ain’t porn.

However, if you type in “Erika Napoletano” into your Google search bar, the first three results are my LinkedIn, FriendFeed and StumbleUpon accounts. Now THIS is what should be interesting to you human resources professionals out there.

BINGO!

Here are some easy steps to follow to research both prospective AND current employees. Remember – nothing is sacred, and these folks are representing your company’s brand in public. Kinda like an issue I had with a female associate at a major Las Vegas law firm that had bikini-clad and cleavage-laden photos populating her MySpace account. Right next to her employing firm’s name. Boooooooooooo…

1. Google and Dogpile search your prospective and current employees. It’s a good starting point for determining if your next secretary or CEO has a web presence, and if so, what’s out in the internet ether about them.
2. Do they have a MySpace account? Multiple execs have told me that MySpace is a huge time-suck when it comes to lower-level desk job employees where internet access isn’t restricted at the office.
3. Create a MySpace account. This will let you review prospective employee profiles and monitor the usage of current employees during the work day, especially if your office policies restrict personal internet use.
4. Read their social media/social networking pages. What are your job candidates bookmarking? What are they scrawling on “walls?” With whom are they connected? This really goes both ways – you can find out if a candidate/employee is connected with an eclectic blend of quality folk, from friends to movers & shakers, as well as if that applicant for the CEO’s Executive Assistant (who cleaned-up well for her series of 5 interviews) is all over the internet in bikini photos and badmouthing a previous employer.
5. Ask candidates SPECIFICALLY about their online presence. I have no qualms telling clients & prospective clients where my social media profiles are. Seriously – it’s the internet. If you post it, I will find it. And I’m just a redheaded copywriter and social media enthusiast. Just think if I were a dogged, overworked and narrowly-focused HR executive intent on preserving the integrity of my firm?

I’ll open the floor now to my readership’s thoughts on the subject. My goal this week wasn’t to sell anyone out or make them feel like a social media presence was a bad thing by any means. However, employees and professionals need to know that if you put it out on the internet, it’s going to get found. Think twice about your online personal brand, as it can be used in the evaluation process that will win — or lose — you the next gig of your dreams. There’s no denying everyone has a personal life, but find ways to keep it separate. Next week’s blog is going to address the private side of social media and how to share personal information online in a discrete manner.

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