Dames...I swear. Don't you love this pic? This man takes no bullshit.

Wah, wah, wah. I can’t make any money. Nobody wants to hire me. I can’t find a job.

Sack up.

If you spent as much time and energy doing something about your business (and your life that “sucks”) as you do complaining, you might actually get somewhere.

And before you go off on me for giving you a “sack up,” I get that life sucks sometimes. I understand the cold, lonely abyss that a heart and mind can fall into. Hell, if you bought a ticket to my heart and dreams lately, you’d think you were seeing a much better made version of Saw 2.

So don’t hand me comments about how I don’t get it. How your situation is different. How it’s someone else’s fault. Own up to the fact that everything you want in your life and business (save the heartbreaking bullshit that the universe hands us that’s unfair, inexplicable and rapes your soul) is yours for the taking. And I’m going to tell you the six reasons why your business (and maybe your life) are bullshit.

Reason #1: “I don’t make enough money!”

This one is precious. Because recently, I had the gift of knowing someone who did whatever it took to earn a living. Making new connections, taking a part-time job. You’d never know unless you asked him. And if you asked him, he told you why. If you need to make more money, make it happen. I guarantee that every day, you walk into at least one establishment with a “Help Wanted” sign in the window. And for the record – it’s the holiday season. EVERYBODY is hiring.

Reason #2: “I can’t afford it.”

Why not? Because you treat your bank account like a personal piggy bank? Because you think saving money is hard? If you’re reading my blog, you have a computer. Maybe that’s on your credit card. Stop paying other people to use your money and start getting paid for the privilege of keeping your money somewhere. Last week I learned about Kasasa – have a look. Spend money on your terms and they take care of the saving part.

Reason #3: “People don’t want to hire me.”

Of course they don’t. Nobody wants to hire a whiny little bitch. So why don’t you start asking the tough question: WHY? If you can figure out WHY nobody wants to hire you, aren’t you on the path towards a solution? Ask someone to look at your resume. I sat down with someone just this past Sunday who wants to work in the advertising and marketing industry and shredded her resume – but in a good way. And you know what? She emailed me and was proactive for WEEKS until I had a Sunday afternoon that fit both our schedules to meet. And I’ll offer you this: if you want me to take a look at YOUR resume, I’ll do it for free. Just drop me a line on my contact form. It’s that simple. (and please put RESUME REVIEW in the subject line on the form). Take the little things out of the equation and start asking the tough questions, because only YOU are keeping yourself from getting a new and better gig.

Reason #4: “He/She needs to apologize.”

This is crap. If you find yourself in the position that you no longer have that person in your life because life had other plans for their term on this mortal coil, you’re going to be eating one big heaping plate of regret. Swallow your pride. Be kind. Say you’re sorry. Open a conversation. And yes, there are some people there’s no talking to – I get that. So if you can live for the rest of your life knowing that if that person died tomorrow and you’d have nothing left to say to them, there ya go. If you feel otherwise, why are you still here reading? You’ve got a soul that belongs in your life. Go get it. And be humble about it.

Reason #5: “I don’t have time.”

Complete and total bullshit of epic proportions. You make the time for what’s important. You know it, I know it. Your manicurist and massage therapist even know it. And I’ll ask you: if the people you cared for in your life weren’t here tomorrow because this fucked up universe decided it had other plans, would you have made the right decisions? Would that project have been worth getting up to finish at 5am so you could drive to someone’s house to give them a hug at 8pm the night before? Time is a grand excuse and we use it in the lamest fashion.

Reason #6: “It’s his/her/their fault.”

No, it’s not. It’s yours. And yes, there is serious shit in life we can’t control, but if you stop wasting energy on blaming other people for what you could be focusing energy on changing…I dunno. Maybe some shit would get done. Blame is a huge black hole for energy in your life and I understand (all too well) how blame can actually save your soul during parts of the grieving and loss process. It helps to have people and things to blame. But I think it passes. And I know I feel better when I take that blame energy and create something instead of feeding a black hole that will never give me anything, especially the things I want most. It’s no one else’s fault in most cases. Start creating things. Stop wasting your soul on people and things not worth your energy. Build, stop tearing down. Love and ditch the “he’s a motherfucker” routine. It takes more energy to blame, hate and exclude than it does to take a deep breath and take the first step towards creating something from your heart. Blame is up there with the Oulda Sisters (Shoulda, Coulda and Woulda). Stark raving assholes, all of them.

You can use situations as excuses or catalysts. What will you choose today?